Mind My Own Business

When I was growing up and one of my three brothers was getting in trouble for something, I would pipe up and desperately want to know,"What did he do?". My dad would vehemently say,"MYOB!" or, mind your own business. This philosophy rings true to me to this day as I believe it leads to nothing but a healthier life for everyone involved. If my own life is far from perfect, who am I to tell you how to live yours? I believe The  Universe has a plan for everyone- I read the other day that no one can run from God for forever. Maybe a plan is in place for someone to realize God's role in their lives and then I come bouncing up, deciding that I know what's best for that person, that I, in my infinite wisdom, know more than The Universe. That is skewed and I know that part of my favorite part of being an adult is to not have other people are overly involved in my life's decisions. Can't get that Sarte quote out of my head these days: Hell is other people.
Because I give a lot of carriage rides during any given week, I wonder a lot about my role during those rides. I like to be hospitable and hopefully make people feel comfortable riding with me, but how much further is it my place to insert myself into these fine people's lives? Did they really come all the way to Memphis to see me and hear all the intricacies of my fascinating life? Generally, no. When romance is budding in the seats of my carriage, my place becomes clear- to drive and let the love happen. To show you the sights of downtown and explain, historically, where we find ourselves as we go through the parks, this all makes sense to me. But beyond that, if I mind my own business in the driver's seat and allow that God is everywhere, shouldn't people who get on my carriage be allowed to experience that hour or half hour the way God would want them to, for themselves? I quit drinking about four and a half years ago and went to AA for a while. (I'm not ruining anyone's anonymity if I out myself, right?) I believe part of my life's path is figuring out what God
wants for me in this life. But that begs the question- what role do I play in other people's lives? How far into someone else's life is it really my place to be? Suffice it to say, I am not entirely sure. But I do know that when I let God be in charge and not my ego, I tend to mind my own business a lot more and life flows more smoothly. Updates on this philosophy and it's effect on my life will be forthcoming. Have a wonderful day!